My research
1) Research question
In my research I´m going to connect long-distance relationships and locus of control in some way which isn´t totally clear yet. However, I have thought as my major research question something like: “How the locus of control affects to a long- distance relationship?” Or more specific “Doest a strong internal locus of control reflects more satisfaction and happiness in the long-distance relationhip?” Or without directly expressing locus of control in the title, for example: “What kind of personality traits are essential being in a long-distance relationship successfully/happily?”, “What kinds of requiments includes being in a long-distance relationship?”, “What kind of personality traits makes it easier to be in a long-distance relationship?”.
2) Hypotheses
I think..
..the locus of control affects in many ways to a long-distance relationship depending dimension of locus of control.
–> Does the dimension of locus of control affects in many ways to a long-distance relationship?
..that strong internal locus of control reflects more satisfaction and happyness in the long-distance relationship and makes relationship more workable than than without it.
–> Does the strong internal locus of control reflects more satisfaction and happyness in the long-distance relationships and makes it more workable than without it?
..that personality traits connected to internal locus of control are relatively essential for at being happily and succesfully in a long-distance relationship.
–> Are the personality traits connected to internal locus of control arelatively essential for at being happily and successfully in a long-distance relationship?
..that some certain personality traits are required for having a working and lasting long-distance relationship.
–> Are some certain personality traits required for having a working and lasting long-distance relationship?
..that personality traits connected to the trust to control one´s own life have positive effect to the long-distance relationship.
–> Is it true that personality traits connected to the trust to control one´s life have positive effects to the long-distance relationship?
..that there is some desirable personality traits that can be defined connected to long-distance relationships.
–> Can man defined some desirable personality traits connected to a long-distance relationship?
Now I want to tell a little why I have chosen exactly those themes in my research. I am very interested in about intimate relationships, especially long-distance relationships, and what king of personality traits people need to be in successfully in these kinds of relationships. I have myself somewhat experience about long-distance relationships and I strongly belief, at least so far, that they can works if the couple just wanted it enough. Obviously, a long-distance relationship demand much work and partners have to be enough committed to the relationships, able to accept compromises, negotiating a lot about rules and fitting schedules together and so on. There are many issues in practical life that is different than in relationships living closely or possible in together; which one is going to travel more? Where to get money for travel? How long phonecalls are you able to to every day? Who has to be flexible? Spending everyday without the partner´s physical presence; how ist that like? Is this kind of relationships suitable for everyone? What kind of character has to be etc…
In my point of view, there is no t specific character for these relationships because people have different roles in their social relationships depend on own and partner´s personality. One example ofdifferent roles in long-distance relationships which come sto mind is more controlling and more adaptive part of the relationship. Or way not both parts can be totally equal as well. Still, I think there are some traits or features that can be define to be let´s say key pointa to success in the long-distance relation. I feel that first of all both parties in a relationship should have a strong internal feeling which create the motivation to make an effort to maintain an develop the relationship. I think the feeling must be so strong kind of foregone conclusion that person doesn´t have to think much or better expressed questioning that decision to be in this kind of relationshiptoo often (naturally everybody can think and reconsider they ralationship status once in a while which doesn´t have to mean anything significant). Speaking about decision to be in a long-distance relationship I don´t necessarily mean conscious solution but rather that thought or feeling what tells you this relationship is worth of efforts to be required.
Another area for which I am interested is an effect what can be in person has a really strong belief that he can control his own life. In the other words, things just not happened at ramdomly. At this context comes the locus of control in the picture. Quickly explaned the term locus of control includes two dimensions which are internal and external locus of control. Locus of control includes two dimensions which are internal and external locus of control. A strong internal locus of control means that people have feeling of poverty to decide direction of treir liver and i have understood that this is usually connected in several context for instance wellbeing or success in the sector etc. On the contrary, a strong external locus of control reflects sense that things are uncontrollable and maybe depended on chance or the fate. I have quite long time now find my locus of control be more internal than external and star to discover different connections which is associated with this feature or trait. One simple example is applying to study psychology, which wouldn´t have success without strong belief that all depends only on myself. However, I am more interested in how my internal locus of control has influenced or perhaps improved to succeed in my long-distance relationships. I know for sure, at least in my case, that internal locus of control at the same time calms down and brings also responsibility. It relax because I know I have chance to keep up this relationship if I only organized a bit and travel from time to time, be faithful and other things that I can control! On the other hand, I know that if I want this relationship to work I have to take account to my dating partner most of the time planning my time spending and then I don´t have way as if escape my responsibilities to my relationship.
3) Critical sources
I have made some research about what has already been done regarding my topic. At this moment I have feeling that studies about locus of control and long-distance relationships themselves have been mede quite a loy but what come sto combine them there isn´t so much research done. I found many articles for example telling about abuse or violence in relationship. . Some studies concentrate just married couples. There were quite many research about long-distance relationships related to satisfaction, role of negotiating how often should be together and other similar themes. What I didn´t find directly were studies about personality traits connected to successful long distance relationship. Or these was a few but most of those personality traits were different to what I wanna explore. Moreover, most of the studies are made in United States or in other cultures than Finland or even Nordic coutries. My research concentrate non-married long-distance relationships in Finnish culture and it´s geographical distances. It specializes how personality traits (related to internal locus of control) have positive effects to the long-distance relationships.
More critical sources:
Sahlstein, E. M. (2004). Relating at a distance: Negotiating being together and being apart in long-distance relationships. Journal of Socialand Personal Relationships Copyright, 21(5), 689-710).
Guldner, G. T. & Swensen C. H. (1995). Time spent together and relationships quality: Long-distance relationships as a test case. Journal of Social and Personal Relationship, 12(2), 313-320.
Segal J. & Mikulincer M. (1991). Loneliness and the desire for intimacy: the intervening role of locus of control. Elsevier Ltd, 12(8), 801-809. Retvied from http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/0191886991901463
4) Methods
I have though actually two options how to carry out my research but I am not quite sure yet because I have to get know still more all methodology that can be used. I have consider to doing an auto-ethnograpgy research using my owm point of views and experiences connecting to subject. However, this kind of study isn´t yet so familier for me. My other idea is to make a qualitative research using few other dating couple interviewing them and probably by doing some questionnaire. At first, I felt that the auto-ethnography would be too difficult for me to make, especially with this topic and in this limited time. Anyway, now I have even more consider to make that auto-ethnography research because it feels more potential and even possible to do. Still, I think it will gonna be clarified guite soon how I am going to carry out this study..
5) Conferences
I could submit my manuscipt for example in..
the World Congress on Positive Psychology (ippa: International Positive Psychology Association)
The 13th annual SPSP Conference (Society for Personality and Social Psychology)
The 13th European Congress of Psychology
D I am afraid a little bit this metodology which isn´t so familiar for me!!! that fucking autoetho… what I can´t even spell yet!! fucked! fuckedfucked……. I am afaird also I the time is gonna end ttoo early.. How I can do all ready at time? fucked fucked fuckled.. STILL, I knoe I´m gonna mmake this course ready and I hope that i can bwill gonna be satisfied to my work… fucked!!!! this gonna takelot of time, I have than God understood and fuuuuck! Where are my words!! 
